Texas Divorce

Dispute Resolution Stage

After you and your divorce attorney have all of the information that you need, or anticipate needing to make decisions in your case, you may attempt to resolve your case and reach an agreement with the other side.  There are several ways you might attempt to do that including mediation, settlement conferences, exchanging offers through your divorce lawyers, sitting down informally with the other side.  And, you and your divorce attorney might use a combination of all of these methods in an attempt to reach an agreement you can both live with and finish your divorce.


Divorce Dispute Resolution

After your attorney has filed the initial pleadings, and you have all the information that you need for right now, your attorney may start talking about “dispute resolution”.  “Dispute Resolution” means resolving issues and reaching an agreement to finish the divorce.  It will likely involve some combination of methods and types of negotiation.  This is the third stage of your divorce and will likely be some attempts to reach a negotiated agreement between you and your spouse.


Divorce Mediation

Mediation is one of the ways that you might attempt to come to an agreement with your spouse.  In divorce mediation, the mediator is usually a lawyer with family law and divorce experience.  The mediator is neutral and for that day they are neutral.  They aren’t on your side or your spouse’s side.  The mediator’s job and focus is on the mediation and working with both sides to assist you all to reach an agreement.  Usually you won’t see the other side, unless you want to meet with them and they agree.


Divorce Settlement Conference

Settlement conference is another way of negotiating in divorce.  Settlement conference can be at a lawyer’s office and the parties each meet in an office with their divorce lawyer and the lawyers then meet in a different room to discuss and negotiation.  Again, you don’t have to see each other if you don’t want to.  The divorce lawyers can do all of their work with you, or they can meet with the other lawyer or even meet with the other lawyer without you.


Kitchen Table Discussions

And, you and your spouse might sit down together and work out the details yourselves. It could even be that you both come to an agreement you can live with at your kitchen table. Sometimes, this works. With the right people and at the right time, this can be a great resolution to the case.  If you’re not sure if this is a good idea for you, talk with your divorce lawyer.

Talk with your Divorce Lawyer

Talk with your divorce lawyer before you begin to negotiate in your divorce.  Make sure your lawyer is up to date and you are working with your lawyer throughout the negotiation process.


This post is the fourth post in our Navigating Texas Divorce series. An experienced divorce attorney will discuss these methods with you and prepare you for the methods that you and your attorney choose to use.  Call today to make an appointment with Jill O’Connell to answer your questions about your divorce.

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