Divorce Lawyer Secrets

You want to know more about divorce lawyers and attorneys.  You want to use your time wisely with your divorce attorney. You are worried about costs, expenses and fees in your divorce and how to keep them down.  These divorce lawyer tips are for you. These are a few of the things divorce attorneys wish you would do, probably ask you to do, and want you to do.

Schedule Your Calls

You need to talk with your lawyer, your lawyer’s office or the paralegal on the phone at times during your divorce.  You don’t need to leave a voicemail, receive a voicemail in reply and go back and forth for two weeks to be able to finally connect with your lawyer. When you have an issue or question that needs your divorce attorney’s review and thought, call the office and ask to schedule a call.  Talk with the paralegal or staff and let them know what your thinking about and that you want to schedule a call with your lawyer about it.  Schedule it at a time that you know can make the call.  There are two advantages to scheduling a call.  The first is that you know your lawyer will be available and you won’t waste time with missing calls and voicemail back and forth.  This will save you time and money.  And, the second advantage is that your lawyer will have the time she needs to review your file and the question or discussion that you want to have with her.  Again, saving you time and money.

Be Prepared

You are going to have to do the work in your divorce.  This is tough.  We know it is tough – no matter which party you are in the divorce. It is tough when you never planned for divorce.  It is tough when you want to stay married. But, here you are. You are going to have to look at your finances, your assets, your debts, your relationship with your kids, and many more things. Do the work and be prepared when you divorce attorney needs you to be.  If your divorce attorney is forced to ask you for information many times, that is going to be more time and more expense for you.


Communicate with your divorce attorney and her office.  Remember that you hired the office for a purpose.  Your lawyer is attempting to complete work for you, advocate for you, and represent your interests in your divorce, at your request.  Your attorney’s professional relationship with you is based on communication. Relationships, even professional, need communication.  When your lawyer emails you, respond to the emails.  When your lawyer’s office calls you, return the call.  When you are requested to complete something, do it.  If something changes in your case, send an update email or call your lawyer’s office to let your lawyer know.  It is ultimately more expensive to not communicate with your lawyer’s office than it is to just do it on the front end.

Get Support

You need more support than just your lawyer. In the first months of your divorce you will experience many emotions.  Find some other support: yoga, dance, flag football, friends, family, counselor.  Even though it feels like your lawyer is the only one who knows what you’re going through, resist the urge to rely on your lawyer for emotional support. Reach out and find other ways and people for support and save your lawyer’s hourly rate for when you need it.  Remember we, your law firm, are working and guiding you through the divorce process.

Call the office to schedule your appointment with Jill O’Connell today. 940-497-5454